PerspectiveI rarely cry. I’m not kidding.  I probably break down in tears 2 or 3 times a year.  I’ve just never been one to cry (probably because I’m an ugly crier). Granted, I avoid sad movies and that horrible Sarah McLachlan commercial with the sad animals, but still. I rarely cry.

As you may know, I’ve had some health issues for about a year and a half and for some reason they continue. I’m not sure if it’s because the universe thinks I can take it, or if this is its way of bitch-slapping me.

It’s probably 50/50.

I take a positive approach to everything and have tried to take this on the chin, but it’s getting kind of difficult. I feel crappy all the time and feel like I’m losing a sense of myself because I’m usually a zombie from the medicines. Lately I’ve felt like if I could cry, I might feel better, but then again, I can’t cry.  (See above.)

So today I was feeling especially miserable so I emailed my husband.  I didn’t want to talk but wanted to touch base with him as we normally do throughout the day. I told him I was frustrated.

And then he sent me the most perfect email that changed everything.  He told me he loved our perfect marriage and our life together, and he told me to watch this.

And just like that, I began to cry. No, I began to wail like a baby.

Every negative thought I had about anything just drifted away. I was laying in bed watching this with Shady Jack at my side staring at me, Max at my feet and Bentley licking my tears away. I thought about how my husband was so thoughtful to say that this song reminded him of me and that he knew I needed this. I needed to cry. I needed to be reminded that things aren’t really that bad.

All of a sudden I realized that my life is amazing. Not because I have a huge house or an enormous diamond (because I don’t).  But because I have so many things that are invaluable to me. My dogs, my sweet niece, and my amazing husband. What else did I need?

I realized that what I really needed wasn’t necessarily to cry, but to gain some perspective. The universe wasn’t bitch-slapping me to be mean–it was bitch-slapping me because I needed it. I needed to focus on what’s really important in life. Somehow I got lost along the way worrying about paying the bills and when I’ll be able to return to work.

Yes, those things matter but they don’t matter as much as the love that surrounds me. That’s the real joy and that’s what life is all about.

My mom always says “The best things in life aren’t things.” I’ve always tried to live by that motto, but it’s good to be reminded of it every now and then.

So take a look around you. Not at what you physically have, but at the love that surrounds you. I bet you take it for granted.  I know I did.  But don’t.

There is nothing more important or precious than those you love, and that should be what gets you through those hard times. It isn’t money to pay the bills or having the newest gadget. It’s who makes you feel good about yourself and who supports you no matter what.

I’m so thankful for the bitch-slap. I needed it. Hopefully this post will bitch-slap you too.


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10 Thoughts on “Perspective: The Ultimate Reality Check (And B*tch-Slap)

  1. Megan Pierce on April 7, 2015 at 2:15 pm said:

    Lisa I needed this today. You helped someone by you needing help. I had been beating myself up a lot for the past 2 months. I got canned from a good paying job to now working part time in a very emotionally rewarding (but not pocket rewarding job). God does mysterious things for his own reasons helping us grow as individuals. I know that you have always been an inspiration to me. My eyes and heart are more filled by your words! The world needs more Lisa Newlin and I do too.

    • Stop it! You’re going to make me use up my other cry of the year! What a wonderful comment. But it’s so true about a reality check. I mean, you are now doing something emotionally rewarding and you’re probably happier. The additional money is nice but not if you have to sacrifice yourself, your time, your time with your husband, etc.

      I know that this time has been hard for me but I also know it’s part of a bigger plan, and I’m open to that. I realize that even today was part of the plan to refocus myself and I’m grateful for it. I’m grateful for the negative things that have happened recently because they got me to this moment today.

      I think we often don’t see the miracles around us every day and that’s so sad. Every day has so many gifts and we’re all moving too fast to see them. So maybe you don’t make as much money, but you’re probably growing more as a person and impacting the world in a positive way. And as long as you’re not destitute, I’d say that’s a win.

      And I’m honored to be an inspiration. What a wonderful compliment. I’m truly humbled by it, although you’re such a wonderful soul too. Don’t doubt yourself. You’re pretty amazing and you have an amazing hubby and family. 🙂

  2. Dona on April 7, 2015 at 5:49 pm said:

    Well. Crap. I, also, am not a crier. Three times a year would be max. I just used up two of them. One on your post and one on your response above. Yeah, I’ve been going through some stuff. Nothing serious, like health or jobs. But pretty life changing just the same. So thanks. Your post has helped. And is much better than a real bitch-slap. Dona

    and you’ll be in my prayers

    • Thank you Dona for your kind words! I’m sorry you’re going through a hard time. The hardest part about that is that when you’re in it, it’s hard to see the bigger plan. Over the past year and a half I look back and see the “bad” things that have happened to me that were horrible at the time, yet I’m grateful for them now. It’s so strange but it’s true. I’ve had so many life-changing epiphanies and realizations and they’re all because of the bad things that happened.

      Of course, that doesn’t make it any easier when you’re going through those times. But just know that whatever you’re going through, whatever struggles you have now, they’re given to you as a gift….you just don’t see it yet. And maybe you’ll never see it, but just know that it’s for a reason. It’s all for a reason and I suspect it will make you stronger. 🙂

      I will keep you in my prayers as well, and as always, thanks for reading and commenting. I appreciate it.
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  3. I am a crier I cry at the drop of a hat, so do you think I cried watching the video, bloody hell I did……………..a good cry makes one feel good but the red eyes are not a nice look……….
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    • I dare anyone to watch that video and not cry! Isn’t it the sweetest? And you’re right. A good cry makes you feel better but for some reason I can’t make myself do it. I wish I could.

      And I think the red and puffy eyes should be coming into fashion any day now…..;-)

  4. Oh my gosh, this made ME cry!! Granted, I’m PMSing and I’m a total sucker for romance, but gah!! Loved everything about this post.

    Except the fact that you’re still sick and stuff. That part I didn’t like so much.
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    • I didn’t mean to make you cry!!! But of course, now you know how I felt…and why I was wailing! How could you not?

      And I will be fine. Someday. Hopefully. And then we will laugh about all of this. Oh, how we will laugh……

      And I need some major updates from you my friend!

  5. sue anello on April 8, 2015 at 8:43 pm said:


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